Thursday, April 2, 2009

The ingredients of a healthy relationship

Relationships play an important role in everyone lives. There are various phases that we go through in our relationships.

No relationship can start off perfect; you have to work towards it. Both you and your partner need to make the effort to keep the flame of love burning forever. It is sad but true that most couple simply give up after tying the knot with the person they love. A busy lifestyle just makes it impossible for people to spare time for each other. I have come across a majority who don't even get time to communicate.

If you consider some of the reasons for divorce, you would find them to be pretty trivial. For example, I came across a couple that wanted a divorce because they hardly managed to make time for each other and thus their relationship never grew. For people who cannot manage time now, do you think they will ever land up in a better relationship unless they realize their mistakes? The small things in a relationship matter the most and one needs to be careful about them. Remember, relationships grow and change with time and we all need to cope with it.

Here are a few ingredients of a healthy relationship that you must know to help your relationship blossom every year.

-Open communication is one of important keys to a healthy relationship. If you can't communicate with your partner, you will never give each other a chance to come closer. Communicating freely helps you understand each other more and strengthens your bond. Communication on a daily basis is a must.
-Spend quality time with each other. Many couples feel that when they stay together they don't need to go out to spend more time. You must understand that other than spending time, you also need to spend some sweet moments together. Plan a vacation to your favorite place. Take time out just for the two of you, go on a candle light dinner or go on an adventure trail. This will help pump up your relationship.
-Age is no barrier for romance. Let romance never end in your relationship. It is good to express your love to your partner even when you are 80. You need to make each other feel special at every stage of life.
-Add an element of surprise to your relationship. Arrange for a spa visit for the two of you, or a quite dinner at your favorite restaurant. Buy each other a gift and feel your hearts beat as fast as when you first met.
-Support each other's dreams. Have faith in the potentials of your partner and be the strongest person to support it. Respecting each other as individuals lays the foundation for a happy relationship.

-Trust and space are an integral part of a healthy relationship. You need to have faith in your relationship and in our partner. Giving space is equally important. Caging either of the partners will only give rise to bitterness.

Taking care of these small things in a relationship makes a huge difference and you can create an ever-lasting relationship.

4 comments:

  1. Your post brings to mind something that was shared with me when I got married.

    LOVE is Action ...

    That sweet feeling is wonderful and warm, but real LOVE is action. Find WAYS to communicate that love. Here are some WAYS I have learned:
    1) Watch my words and my tone of voice
    2) LISTEN
    3) Pay Attention
    4) Start "discussions" with these words "I love you, but there is something I need to talk with you about..."
    5) Unexpectedly do something thoughtful

    These may seem inconsequential but they send a very important message, YOU MATTER TO ME!
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  2. I have a question. What if your partner is extremely possessive? they are close minded about everything. Who you talk to, who you meet, but they care a lot about you. What do you do in such a case? especially if you know leaving is just not the right option.
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  3. Insightful blog. I believe the main ingredients start as follows
    God first! If you have God first in your relationship then you have something to be held accountable for. Trust, you have to be able to trust your partner and them trust you. If there is not trust your in for a heap load of problems. And communication. Communication is the window to solving all problems and alot of times resolves what would have been problems before they start!
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